Man Tells His Girlfriend to ‘Get Her Life Together’ After She Meets his Wealthy Parents and Voices Concerns About Their Lifestyle Difference

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Apr 5, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

Until what age do you think it is still acceptable for people to figure their lives out?

It seems that anywhere between the ages of 20 to 30, people can be in completely different places in life. There are a lot of 30-year-old people who have a career, a spouse, and even kids, while there are also a significant amount of people in their 30s who still don't know what they want to do when they grow up and are in no way ready for a serious relationship.

The girl in this Reddit story is only 24, which I feel is a completely acceptable age to still figure stuff out, but apparently, her boyfriend disagrees. In a Reddit post he wrote, he talks about how his girlfriend panicked after meeting his wealthy parents because she felt like they were on completely different lifestyle levels. Instead of being reassuring and supportive, the boyfriend tells her that it's not his fault that she hasn't figured her life out yet…

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  • 01
    AITA for telling my girlfriend that it's not my fault she can't get her life together
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    My (26m) girlfriend (24f) dropped out of college on the middle of her second year and is still in the trying to figure out her life phase. I admit I don't really know how to treat that since my parents has always
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    been very strict about taking as many AP classes as we can until the age of 16 (10th grade) so that we will be able to do what we want and to come to them the summer before 11th grade
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    with a plan that details every class we will take to get us to the degree that we want and a general plan of what we want to do before getting the degree, while getting the degree and after getting the degree. My
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    girlfriend never really understood my parents doing that since her parents never really cared as long as she's happy and surviving, and while it took me some time to
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    understand as well seeing as me and my sibling are all very successful I'm thankful for that. The problems started a few days ago (5 months into our relationship) when she officially
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    met my family (she has seen my sister a couple of time when she came to crash at my place because she needed quiet to study (she's in her last year of medical school) but they didn't really talk much).
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    Both of my parents are lawyers and our house is very fancy and always look put together and like no one lives there since they have meetings there sometimes. Next to my
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    girlfriend house that always look homie and very lived in she was rightfully a little freaked out. By the end of the night I could see that my girlfriend finally understood just how different our upbringing were.
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    I drove her home after and before she got out of my car she asked me to not make her go to my parents house anymore. I asked her why because while I had a clue I
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    didn't want to make assumptions. She said that it freaks her out and wouldn't elaborate. I pushed a little and she kind of snapped that it makes her look bad and feel like she's not good enough for me.
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    (This is edited because I was copying it from somewhere else and this this paragraph was deleted) I was shocked, I told her that just because my parents have more money than
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    her it doesn't matter and that she makes enough money to live comfortably and be happy and that's all I want from a partner. She told me that it's not just that, it's my all family. My
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    brother is a surgeon, my sister wants to be an anesthesiologist and I work in the biggest bank in the country, we all make (or going to make in my sister case) her yearly salary in a month (it's
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    an exaggeration) and that she doesn't know if she can live feeling like that. I was mad at that point and told her that it's my fault that she decided to drop out of college
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    and now can't get her life together. It's not true, she has an amazing life and I know that but I was so mad that I didn't notice what I was saying. She didn't say anything and just walked out.
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    I feel really bad but also like I was justified by reaching like that, she was taking bad about the way my parents raised me and I will always protect my parents against everything.
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    I need to know AITA? • I'm sorry about the mistakes and mess but it's 3 in the morning for me and I barely slept in two days
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    fallingintopolkadots - 2 hr. ago . edited 2 hr. ago Supreme Court Just- [101] YTA. 24 is still very young, and it's totally okay that she doesn't have everything figured out quite yet. I just take issue with the way you speak about your family and
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    your upbringing and the way to you compare it to hers. You really do talk as though you think she's less than you and your family.
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    If you don't care enough about this young woman in order to see things from her point of view, and not as though your family is better than hers (seriously, you talk about them like they could do no wrong,
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    and like their life is gilded), then maybe you shouldn't be together. It really kind of feels like you think she's less than you and your family as opposed to being an equal in your eyes if not in fortune.
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    AMadManWithAPlan - 2 hr. ago perintendant [69] YTA. She said she didn't feel good enough for you, and you agreed with her lol. It's also wild that you're contorting what she said as an attack on your upbringing - this is pretty
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    much only about her feeing inadequate compared to your family, due to her recent struggles. She never suggested your parents did something Wrong, just that she doesn't feel like she fits into that lifestyle.
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    lilolememe 2 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [24] ΥΤΑ You treated her rudely when she was sharing her own feelings. She didn't attack you or your family, but you took it that way. Then you made her feel worse than she was already feeling.
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    Ozymandias_1312 - 2 hr. ago YTA, not everyone is as lucky as you, and whilst I'm sure you've all worked hard to get where you are it's a lot easier to work hard when you have everything you need why don't you try help her get her life together, that would be nice of you
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